this is a good take on it. presenting either masculine or feminine simply comes with different social repercussions. femininity is societally seen as inherently weaker, which is why it's usually more useful to talk about, but masculinity has it's own issues. men are encouraged to embrace masculine psychologies: dominance, resilience, impulsiveness... which works in most men's favor, but for people that fall into this structure that want to break it, suddenly they're fighting a lot of social conditioning and repercussions to reach a state that suits them, either caving to the pressure or pushing past it.
SO what I remember how my MOM saw me getting fucked by my BF she knew I was a gurl.she just asked later if I enjoyed it.. I just said you saw us what do you think..SHE JUST SAID GOOD GURL
This is why I avoid effeminate men, they bottom shame and it does psychological harm to men who prefer to bottom and be submissive. I never had an issue with a masculine normal dude, I get fucked in the ass and do my thing, I get a thank you and go about my day; doesn't happen with effeminate men.